Not long when I was asked how if felt to be a Woman, that’s when I realized I have actually grown up to be a Woman and am no more Mummies little Girl. If you ask me how it feels, I feel on top of the world for I now realize there is nothing I am not capable of. I feel Women are the best creations ever and are proud to be one.
The story of my life goes like this, I come from a family where my Father is the first educated person in the household, and I am the First Educated, Working woman in the house. The journey so long has never been an easy one, and I am happy to have come across such situations for it has only made me strong enough to lead by example at least within my family. Today, I am the decision maker, and it is also because I have always been proving my capabilities one after another. Yes! It all sounds impressive when I put it this way for it would have never been possible without a good Mother always standing by my side.
Coming to Womanhood, I am designed and modeled by my mom’s thoughts, her dreams and her aims are what I have achieved. Now that I have reached her dreams, it’s time for me to set my goals and make them too. She always wanted a baby Girl, and all that she ever knew was to make her daughter independent. Responsibilities were not postponed waiting for me to grow up, it was always there since my birth, I turned a mother when I was bestowed with a Little Sister and also learnt that someone or the other is learning through your acts ( in this case my sister was following my footsteps) so were the people around me.
It was not an easy task to choose the field of Engineering or Masters in Engineering when the world was still in its initial stages, We belong to an era 1980-1990; being born in this era woman understand what it is like to convince your parents or relatives the need for education, for all that they know is Girls should get married and settle right after they turn 18 as there is a rule otherwise. I learned standing up for myself at a very young age when all were playing out, and Few others were partying; I was sitting and making goals to make sure I was not married to some other relative of mine at the age of 18. A trip from the college was out of reach for us, for it was not right, girls are not supposed to go out you see. I wanted to see this change in my family I wanted to be the one who brings an end to all these customs which make no sense. Like me, many girls have taken this initiative and now are few of the strongest woman you can find.
Yes, this also lead me to seem like emotionless or a career oriented person and I hold no regrets on that. I have been in a relationship or two and now also know that I can’t act to be accepted. Being Woman doesn’t mean being Feminist/Racist or acting like you own the world. Being woman to be is fulfilling all our roles efficiently, you fulfill certain duty as a daughter, meet your parent’s expectations. You get married, help your husband grow in every step he takes, bridge the gap between two families and take the responsibilities for two Families. Then comes along Children, teach them right and wrong make them better human beings to live with. There is already a sibling to care for, make sure you are available to them whenever they need you that is not all, you then are a working for a firm you need to meet the expectations of your managers and peers. Oh, not to forget improvements on the personal front, your hobbies and your grooming are all to fit your ideology of Your own self. And this is all to be met simultaneously, no, we can never prioritize one over another for they all stand in the same priority.
And so I love my job of being Woman, for I know when I can commit to all these responsibilities and challenges in keeping everyone around happy along with self-satisfaction; I can achieve anything on earth.
Today on this Women’s day what I feel is, “Lucky to be born as one” for I know I am superior to all and I have no boundaries. I know, I have set my standards high, and I shall soon achieve even more in all the roles I play. Being Woman does not symbolize weakness, but we are the strongest creations one could ever make with the softest hearts one could never Hate.
Happy Women’s day to all the women out there!
C. A. Stubborn Pen 