With this week being marked as Valentine’s week; over 50% of my friends have so far questioned me “So who is the Man of your life?” / “Who is your Valentine; are you planning to spend it alone this time as well?” / “Common Cherry, get a life. Date a Guy or two; How long do you plan to remain like this?“. And I am tired telling the same answer “I haven’t found that one person for whom my heart would race.” Few people assume that “I have very high expectations,” few suggest “It’s time to get married you are 26 now!” and few comment “No Guy can exist who matches your ideologies.” This is to answer all those who comment, suggest and want me to settle because of my age, and for those who might question me later during their small talk!
I am looking for someone who doesn’t fear commitment when I say commitment, and it is not dating for a year or two going here and there and then giving silly reasons for “Why it all didn’t work.” I am tired seeing breakup’s and divorces, and I don’t want anyone for such small duration and then having to bear the pain of it forever. We are in a generation where we are tied to social media; we are all busy with nothing, we are the super free practical people who have time for 100’s but not for that one person. For me Relationships hold the highest priority, I take a lot of time to know a person as they are before I come to a conclusion if they are right or wrong. I value honesty over fake compliments. We are becoming emotionless in the name of being practical.
Every story I have heard or every person who loves in this Generation marries someone else for tomorrow’s comfort of well-being, money, status, and sometimes for the growth in career; which seems like a trade than a mutual respect for human being. People marry a good looking person because they want to post good images on Facebook, Instagram, twitter so on and so forth. They fear to be vulnerable; they fear facing parents for their love of life they haven’t tasted the warmth and madness of love. I might sound like a Shakespeare talking about being vulnerable or indeed in love with someone but yes I believe in those unexplainable feelings when a person’s eyes opens door to their souls, I believe in being vulnerable in front of that one person, I believe in not giving up on that one person without whom life is incomplete.
It might sound ridiculous to most of them, but I believe in those good old days, where people trusted and fought for their love when things weren’t going fine, I believe in understanding one another over leaving them and ourselves heartbroken in the name of practicality. I believe in writing letters over chatting on messengers, I believe in making memories over meeting up and spending the whole time on our smartphones. I might be a super independent, professional women, but I am also someone who would give up everything just to be with that one person. Yes, sounds funny and you ask me will you have a lavish life, will you be able to stay without certain things you have now, are you sure he would not cheat you, is he worth you giving up everything. The answer to all this is “Love is a how you nurture it; you get what you give.” Yes, it might be difficult to convince my parents, but they sure would understand if I explain I will be happy with him. To be happy, you don’t need a big bungalow/ car/ big salary, all you need is that peace of mind when you are with them. If I am loyal, faithful and understanding no guy would cheat on someone for subtle attraction.
Commitment is not something you expect. First, you need to give before you expect. Sometimes you need to give up something just to save some other important things in life, being practical and pretending to be strong like breaking someone heart doesn’t matter to you is called stupidity. For there exists Karma, Do good and good shall come to you. Which also explains, that I haven’t found that one person who is ready to stick with me and see how much I can achieve as well as stand by me when I fail, I need someone who doesn’t give up on me, and I am not ready to compromise on these. I can take care of myself, and I don’t need, someone for depending on them. I am looking for someone to fall in love with, not to be dependent on them or not like my parents can’t take care of me so now they are giving their responsibility to someone else! So that explains why I am single and happy about it!
I would surely not let go of that one person who is ready to commit and would for sure tell the world “he is my Man” till then keep these questions to yourselves, we have better things to talk about and discuss on!
C. A. Stubborn Pen 