Patience is the Key to every Success

Patience – Easy to speak about but most difficult to attain. An essential element of life just like Salt in the dish, yet missed by all. Success comes to those who are patient enough and are working towards their Goals; which is the most tiring and exhausting.

We play different roles in our lives, we are a parent, child, sibling, partner, friend, co-worker, relative is few to name. In this generation which is 4G fast in every field, Patience becomes the most important ingredient. It is going to be faster than the current generation, due to which we might see a lot of failures due to lack of this ingredient.

Over the past few months, most people I have been counseling seem to have lost track of where they were heading! Few friends, few parents and others, everyone I met cribbed about how things aren’t working but no one was ready to work towards making it better. I am sure we are seeing divorce and breakup rates increase over time, one main reason is a lack of patience to understand someone.

Most cases, newly wed couples file a divorce in 6months or less; and I personally feel the reason is miscommunication. The Girl wants to take charge of the house, mother in law wants to show she is already in charge and it is her way or no way; husband wants the wife to be understanding and no one is ready to compromise or wait for time to pass for them to settle down with a lot of changes that are happening over time.

It becomes important for the bride to be understanding that her mother-in-law might be feeling insecure that she might be ill-treated and she is trying to secure herself by dominating over you. And you might be married to her son, but she will need time to adjust to you like how you will find it difficult adjusting to her. Likewise, every mother-in-law should Understand that working women can’t be as perfect as you the in the household; they were busy making their career so they haven’t learned some house chores which they will eventually learn.

As a husband; it becomes his duty to make sure he has understood her goals in life and her lifestyle which includes the people she mingles with. No matter who the Girl is; be it your Girlfriend or the one whom your parents found you; she cannot be your mom. She will do those things to her children; you can never compare her dishes with your mom nor the way she handles things because she is wired differently. And as Wife, it becomes necessary for you to understand what is his relationship with his family; you cannot become selfish and expect only him to adjust to your parents and siblings. We cannot clap with one hand likewise we cannot build a relationship with just one person trying.

Sometimes it so happens that, one person feels they have given everything yet the opposite person hasn’t reciprocated that way. They might have loved you the way they wanted to be loved, not the way you wanted to be loved. What I mean to tell is, say someone surprises you every single time by taking you to their hangout places, plays songs of their choice and they order your food; this speaks volumes about them which means you are learning about them and they haven’t given way to know about you. If you are the one giving surprises, then make way for the other to also surprise you; basically to learn more about them. They are always available for you but likewise are you available for them?

Patience helps any relationship bear fruits like wise patience helps you achieve your goals. When you want to achieve some goal which means everything to you; rest assured it never comes easy. You will be tested, and tested till you feel you are done with it, but it is your patience that will actually come handy. It might take a little longer; it might even seem impossible but the patience you have and desire towards you Goal is what pays off at the end.

Fight one day at a time, this too shall pass. Nothing was easy until it was done! Always remember when you have the patience to achieve your goal, understand somebody, explain yourself and be with odds; you taste the sweetness of success.